It can be hard to know how to help someone who is going through cancer. You want to help, but may struggle with what words to say or what to do. It is natural to want to ask, “What can I do to help?” However, many patients might not be able to communicate their needs.

When someone is overwhelmed, exhausted, or struggling with their emotions, it can be hard to think of an answer. If someone is going through chemotherapy, they may have “chemo brain” on top of everything else, which can make things even more difficult.

Instead of saying, “Let me know if you need anything,” try offering something specific at a specific time instead.

Here are 5 things to say instead:

“Can I bring dinner on Tuesday night?”

“I’d love to drive you to your appointment next week”

“I can stay with you for your infusion appointment on Wednesday if you want.”

“I’m going to the grocery store, what can I pick up for you?”

“Can I walk the dog for you this weekend?”

Small, specific acts of support like this can make all the difference to someone going through treatment. You don’t have to solve all your loved ones problems or say the perfect thing. Just keep showing up in small and consistent ways. That can be one of the best gifts!

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